Your mother may be right. It may be time for him to move. But what concerns me about what has been going on is the lack of communication and a certain lack of respect. And nothing will change unless you and your husband insist upon it.
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DEAR ABBY: This year my school started an international program, so we have students from around the world who attend school with us. I’d like to learn about their countries and invite them to the youth group I attend, but I’m nervous about talking to them and don’t think I could work up the nerve. I’m also worried about what they will think of me. What should I say and do? – APPREHENSIVE IN INDIANA
DEAR APPREHENSIVE: Please don’t be afraid to reach out. Put yourself in those students’ shoes. If you were in a strange school in a foreign country, wouldn’t you be glad if someone approached you and introduced himself or herself and invited you to an activity, or to their home for dinner? All you need to do is smile and say, “Hi, I’m –.” If you do, you could start a lifelong friendship and expand your horizons further than you could ever dream.
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DEAR ABBY: Is it acceptable for one adult to correct another’s English unless asked to do so?
My sister does it frequently, and I want to know if it’s rude so I don’t make the same blunder. – GRAMMATICALLY YOURS IN NEW ORLEANS
DEAR GRAMMATICALLY YOURS: It isn’t rude if it is done tactfully, in private and in the spirit of being helpful. If it’s done as a form of one-upmanship, it is obnoxious.
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