Dear Harriette: This June, I’ll be graduating from college, and I’m elated because all of my hard work will pay off. During my senior year, I moved to New York City and fell in love. I broke up with him because I knew he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship, even though he genuinely loves me. I am totally fine with us not being committed to each other because we still have a strong bond and continue to build our friendship. It doesn’t hurt because
With that said — and with graduation around the corner — I’m conflicted about bringing him home. I understand our situation, but I worry what my father may think about me bringing home a man to whom I’m not committed. Am I overthinking this situation, or should I bring him home? — Friendly, Brooklyn, N.Y.
Dear Friendly: Bringing home an ex for your graduation definitely sends a mixed message to your family. Listen to your inner voice. You sound tremendously conflicted about him. Many people who break up need time apart before they are able to find their way to a platonic friendship. Listen to your heart and honor what you hear.
As far as bringing him home, I would not do it.
Dear Harriette: I love shoes! I spend about $400 for a great pair, and I think I may need to slow down on the impulse purchases. I have a daughter who’s in her second year of high school, and she is planning to go out of state for college. I think it would be in my best interest to put some extra money aside for my daughter’s education. Do you have any suggestions on how can I curb my shoe purchases? — A Mom in Need, San Francisco